Hello Space Colleagues,
I am recently trained in SPACE, and am seeking some consultation for a family I am working with. This 16 year old boy has a long history or selective mutism and social phobia. In recent years, as school has become more challenging he has also exhibited school refusal. We are in Toronto, and school is currently online. He does participate in school however parents wake him, sit beside him, put him into break out rooms, and monitor closely his attendance. He never speaks in class, and hardly speaks to parents. They also prompt him to finish school work, and he is doing well in school. There are SO many accommodations, however I struggle with what to begin with. Parents are concerned that if they remove something he will sink lower and will participate less in school- AND they know that they have to start with something. He can lay on the couch and do nothing fo long periods of time. We have settled on not prompting for homework completion, and not sitting with him through classes that he is more confident in (math). He had been in treatment, but was not willing and would not speak. I am currently working with parents. Any thoughts, or input would be much appreciated!
look at places where the parents are speaking for him in motivating situations for example if he loves food and likes eating out take him to a restaurant good and hungry (do announcement first re no longer goin to order food for him at resturants as it is not helping him etc ) and let the weiter ask what he wants and if he doesnt respond everybody else orders their food eats and returns home... things like this are difficult and parents can fear them goign hungry etc but we are not stopping them eat we are just not ordering for him in restaurant..... these trials can be set up for family day outs family suppers etc... also what is he most interested in is it gaming/internet/ etc put these things away in locations he can readdly find and wait till he asks for them and he can be infomed ye will only respond if he talks verbally with him etc. all these things require knwing what moritvates him...again if food is his motivator what happens if parents dont cook a meal or cook something he doesnt like.....will he go away and prepare somethign fo rhim self here we have motivation for food driving behaviours ....i hope this makes sense...