I’m in the UK and trying to pre-order the new parent workbook for the parents I’m working with using SPACE, however Amazon is saying I can’t preorder from the UK. Am wondering how to get around this issue. Thanks 😊
Dr. Leibowitz, thank you so much for posting this.
The book will be out in early 2021. The publisher has had from me for a while already but books coming out is completely on their timeline and out of my hands I'm afraid.
I'm pasting below the Table of Contents and the foreword (hopefully that is ok for me to do!)
Chapter 1: Understanding Child Anxiety
Chapter 2: Child Anxiety: Types and Treatments
Chapter 3: Is Your Child’s Anxiety Taking over Your Family?
Chapter 4: Common Pitfalls in Parenting an Anxious Child
Chapter 5: Family Accommodation
Chapter 6: Mapping Accommodation
Chapter 7: How Can You Be Supportive?
Chapter 8: Which Accommodation Should You Reduce First?
Chapter 9: Planning How to Reduce Accommodation
Chapter 10: How Do You Let Your Child Know about the Plan?
Chapter 11: Working on Your Plan
Chapter 12: Troubleshooting—Dealing with Difficult Child Responses
Chapter 13: Troubleshooting—Dealing with Difficulties in Working with Your Partner
Chapter 14: Wrapping Up and What’s Next?
Appendix A: Worksheets
Appendix B: Resources
“My Child Is Struggling withAnxiety, Can You Help?”
This is a question I get asked very frequently by parents of children and adolescents coping with elevated anxiety. This book answers that question by saying, “YOU can help your child!” If you are the parent ofa child with anxiety or obsessive-compulsive problems, it is my hope that by following the steps described in these pages, you will be able to significantly reduce your child’s anxiety and improve their quality of life.
The steps laid out in this book are a systematic treatment approach that has been tested in clinical trials and found to be very effective. The name of the treatment program is SPACE, which stands for Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions. What many parents find most exciting about SPACE, and what makes it most different from other child anxiety treatments, is that it focusesentirely on parents and provides them with the tools to help their children. In fact, here’s a promise: At no point in this book will parents be required to pressure their children into doing things they don’t want to do. In working through this book, you’ll only be trying to change the behavior of the one person you can control the most, yourself.
Before going any further let’s do away with a common myth about childhood problems; namely, that childhood problems are caused by parents, and if your child has an anxiety problem this is probably due to something you did wrong, or to something you should have done but did not. In Chapter 3, I address this myth and explain why it is simply not the case.The desire to help your children live the best lives they can live, and to overcome challenges they face, is completely separate from the notion that you as a parent caused your child’s difficulties. Once you think about it this way, it becomes obvious that the two things differ. Afterall, why would a parent only want to help a child with problems the parent had caused? It makes no sense! Likewise, the fact (and it is a fact) that parents can be helpful to their anxious children does not mean that the parents caused the anxiety. Why should parents only be able to impact problems they caused? That also makes no sense. So whether you blame yourself for your child’s anxiety, or somebody else blames you for it, or you think that I blame you for it by suggesting you have the power to help your child, let’s do away with the myth that you are the cause of your child’s anxiety.
Like many other treatments, SPACE is a systematic program in which each step builds on previous steps in an organized way. For this reason, the best way to use this book is to read through the whole book and follow the suggestions in the order they are presented. It can be tempting to jump ahead or skip over steps, especially as you are probably eagerto get going and see your child’s anxiety improve as soon as possible. But you and your child are most likely to have the best success if you follow each step in order. Taking the time to complete all the steps, and making use of the accompanying worksheets, is really the best way to accomplish your goal of helping your child be less anxious.
Although working through each step takes time, it’s useful to remember that treating childhood anxiety always takes time and effort. SPACE has been found to be an effective way of reducing anxiety in children, but this research has focused on clinical studies in which parents attend regular meetings with a skilled therapist every week for around 12 weeks. Other treatments, such as child-based cognitive behavioral therapy (see Chapter 2 for a brief description of CBT), also rely on regular weekly meetings with a therapist and require alot of work both in the sessions and between them. So don’t shortchange yourself when working independently with a book such as this one. Put in the effort and devote the time so that you can be sure you are giving yourself the best chance of success. One suggestion is to commit to your own “session time,” setting aside an hour a week, which you (and your partner when working together) will devote to working on this book and thinking about the progress you are making.
Of course, even with substantial time and effort, working with a book can’t completely substitute for skilled therapy from an expert clinician. This book contains tools and suggestions that will likely be sufficient for many parents to have a meaningful impact on their child’s anxiety. But if you realize that the book is not enough, or if you find that you need more help, then working together with a professional mental health provider who is knowledgeable about child anxiety and experienced in treating it may be the best option.
And finally, thank you! Thank you for being a parent who is sensitive to your child’s needs and devoted to helping your child. You are holding a book that is written for parents who wantto help their child. Your sensitivity has helped you understand that your child is coping with anxiety, and your dedication has led you to seek out ways to help them. So, thank you!
I ordered this back in May, and it still hasn't been released. Time is of the essence in implementing SPACE. I wonder if the authors might give us a quick summary or checklist, or any digital content at all, to help parents who are currently struggling through this and don't have a practitioner in their area.
weirdly I’ve just managed to preorder it now being released March 2021 but that’s fine! Very strange but when I’ve gone onto Amazon direct it’s worked fine 👍🏻😊
Hi Bec! I really do not know. Perhaps pre-orders are only for amazon USA? I'm sure when it's out it will be available on both. I could check with the publisher though.