I understand the concept of SPACE. Can anyone give insight into how to NOT accommodate with many of our well-engrained family practices?
Our daughter will only drink out of certain glasses (gets them on her own), wear certain clothes (washes and cares for them on on her own), use a certain brush/water bottle, charger, etc. and she arranges that on her own.
She uses her feet to open most doors/cabinets, wears long sleeves to touch things (fork, backpack, medicine, book), only uses certain toilets/phones/computers. Only sits in certain places in house or car.
We do accommodate her by not making her ride the bus out of fear that she will not go to school, which we believe is very likely because she hates everything about school. Also, we do not make her do things that our non-OCD children do (ride in the front seat with us, sit on the back porch with us, go on walks with us).
Here's my question: Would Space theory say we have to make her sit in front of the car, make her sit in every chair in the living room, make her use other bathrooms? Making her take action seems different from accommodating her. But maybe I am making excuses.
We do accommodate her preferences to do chores at certain times (e.g., she will only unload dishwasher in evenings after she has showered). We feel grateful we are able to get that done - does it matter what time? I guess I should say it does.
I also recognize I accommodate her by rolling up the car windows when we drive by the school. That is def one I need to stop. She will freak out and then her clothes, the car, me, the backpack, everything with us will be contaminated. That is why I roll them up. I'm tired.