5 days ago

training for our therapist, materials

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Because I don't have anyone in my area who has been trained in the SPACE approach, I wanted to inquire about possibly sponsoring attendance at the workshop in San Francisco for our wonderful local therapist. I am trying to avoid it being awkward or unprofessional to offer it. I was thinking that some other parents around the world might want to raise funds like this as well. We all spend so much money on private therapy (including those appointments that our treatment-resistant kids refuse to attend) and I think so many kids in our communities would benefit from more therapists and counselors and health practitioners being trained. I'm also very interested in online or teletherapy in the SPACE approach and would love to hear if any of you know anyone who is doing that.

 

Also, I’m hosting a screening of Unstuck (the kids OCD movie) next month in Portland, OR, and I'd like to be able to share some materials with the parents and professionals who attend - a pamphlet perhaps, flyer about the upcoming trainings...can anyone direct me to something like that?

3 days agoEdited: 3 days ago

I love Unstuck! It's a great film. I also published a brief review of the film in the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry which you can share, but I imagine the movie producers have better materials.

Not sure how a therapist would respond to the offer for parents to sponsor a training. Perhaps if a therapist knew enough parents wanted them to be able to offer the treatment they would consider it worthwhile to attend without the parents having to sponsor.

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  • It’s good to have you here! Feel free to share anything - stories, ideas, questions or whatever is on your mind. Here you can start discussions, connect with members, reply to comments, and more. I created the parent forum to provide a place where parents can connect with each other and discuss anything relevant to being the parent of someone with anxiety, OCD, or other related disorders. Being the parent of a child or adolescent with elevated anxiety means coping with constant challenges and dilemmas. SPACE is one approach to navigating those challenges and helping children to overcome their anxiety. In SPACE, parents replace accommodation of a child's symptoms with supportive responses, ones that show the child both acceptance and validation of their genuine difficulty, as well as confidence in the child's ability to cope with tolerate the distress. I hope this forum is useful and helpful to parents who want to connect with others who share their interests and stories. And I hope that everyone will maintain a supportive attitude - not only toward their child, but to others on the forum as well. Remember that everybody has a lot in common, and everyone is also different. Again, welcome to the forum!